Penny's Passion: Be a Good Wedding Guest

Wednesday, May 26, 2021

Be a Good Wedding Guest

It's wedding season!  I've been helping couples plan and execute their big days for about 10 years now and during that time I've seen some things.  Some things you should not have to see at weddings.  Today on Thinking Out Loud Thursday I'm sharing a few tips on what you should not do as a wedding guest.
If an RSVP is requested, please PLEASE respond.  "RSVP" comes from the French expression répondez s'il vous plaît and means "please respond".  The bride and groom care enough about you to invite you to share in their special day, so care enough about them to respond!  If the invitation states "regards only" and you plan to attend, you don't need to do a thing.  If they are asking for an RSVP, please respond if you plan to attend OR if you aren't going to be able to make it.  Respond either way!  Bottom line - RESPOND!!  When you open the invitation and you know you are going to attend, respond immediately so you can not worry about forgetting to do it.  If you're not sure, put a reminder on your phone to respond by the date requested.  

Plan on arriving 10 or 15 minutes before the start of the wedding.  Mapquest the location ahead of time and make a plan.  It's hard to be sitting guests as the bridal party is trying to make their entrance.  Get there a little early, find a seat, and enjoy the beauty of the day.

If you are asked to sit at a specific table for dinner, please sit there.  After dinner, you can roam and sit wherever your heart desires.  But for dinner, the bride and groom would like you to sit where they have assigned you to sit.  If you're worried about having to sit with people you don't know, think of a few conversation questions you can ask.  Some examples are "How do you know the bride and groom?", "What song do you really hope the DJ plays tonight?", "How far did you have to travel to attend the wedding?", "What's the craziest thing you have ever seen at a wedding?".  

The bride and groom have a lot of things to do at their wedding and reception.  They want to be able to enjoy their time with all their family and friends gathered in one spot.  Be mindful of how much time you are monopolizing them!  If you want to spend more time with the newlyweds, set up a dinner in the weeks after the wedding.  Join them on the dance floor and spend time having fun.  Write them a note and drop it in the card box with any special thoughts you want to say.  It's fine to chat with the bride and groom to express your congratulations, just don't pull them into a lengthy conversation that will make it hard for them to visit with their other guests.  

Dance, drink, and be merry - but not so merry that you will be embarrassed the next day!  Open bar doesn't mean drink yourself into oblivion.  

When the party is over - leave.  If you're not done celebrating, feel free to continue at an after-party.  Many times the bride and groom need to have everyone gone and the venue cleaned by a certain time or they will get charged for the extra time.  If the lights are on and the music has stopped, that's a pretty good sign the party has ended.  Time for you to move out.

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  1. All solid wedding guest advice! I hope you enjoy this week's round of recipes from Homemade on Weeknight!

  2. Happy Thursday, thanks for hosting :)

  3. I kind of giggled at the wedding attendance tips, just common curtesy there, but I thought the graphics for each were lovely.

    Thank you as always for allowing my content to remain in the link up. I really appreciate you.

    Have a lovely day and a fabulous weekend!!

  4. Very good advice, Penny! Thank you and thank your for hosting every week.

  5. Ugh the RSVP part was the most annoying to me when I was planning our wedding... how hard is it to mark a card and put it in a self addressed stamped envelope?! Great tips!

  6. Thanks once again for hosting this charming party!! I appreciate all the work that goes into doing so!! Stay safe, healthy and happy!!

  7. Thanks for the great tips here.

  8. Penny, thank you for hosting. I'm #28. Lots of great links I'm going to visit in the next few days!

  9. PS Great tips for wedding guests. I always tell people planning any type of event to get responses from everyone either way, none of this "Regrets only" nonsense. With all the people who don't Rsvp, one would never know whether the person who didn't give a "Regrets only" response is really going to attend or is simply one who failed to send his regrets!

  10. Wow it seems sad you actually have to remind people that these things are expected. Every so often I pick up on new things that are expected but these are things that have been in place since the first wedding I attended as a pre-teen. Sad to think common courtesy isn't so common.

  11. These are such good tips! Thank you for sharing the wisdom you've collected from years of working with brides.

    And thanks so much for joining the Grace at Home party at Imparting Grace. I'm featuring you this week!

  12. Thank you for sharing these tips. As a mother of a bride last year, all of these things are certainly important and helpful! #HomeMattersParty

  13. All great points, Penny. Thank you for adding this helpful post to the Friday with Friends link party!

  14. Thank you because you have been willing to share information with us. We will always appreciate all you have done here because I know you are very concerned with our.

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